Before marriage, the parties lay out the goals of the relationship. It’s more than a prenup. Decide the financial terms, and what goes where should it end. The same goes for the kids. The contract also establishes broad goals for the marriage itself: Is it for companionship? Is it to bring kids into the world? Build financial equity or a business?
Then, in year 9, you’re forced to make a decision. Has the marriage has run its course? Or, do you sign another 10-year contract, but with changes.
Study after study find that a lack of communication is the No. 1 reason people divorce. A forced conversation about the future of a marriage can only be good for any relationship. Finally, for those who are certain their love will indeed endure for the rest of time, what could be more romantic than signing on for a lifetime of 10-year anniversaries? How delightful to look forward to decades scheduled with vow renewals?
This is what the text club said:
8175 - I feel marriage itself is all ready a contract and adding a marriage contract is redundant.
2679 - What you're describing is completely different than marriage. If people want to enter into a relationship under certain terms, that's something different. The definition of marriage is "till death do us part".
6587 - My wife and I have been married 19 years. Things are not the same now. Try the contract and on the day of the tenth year married you know whether or not you can stand each other that long. If so then your in love.
9047 - I think the idea that a renewable marriage contract is depressing even unromantic. I don’t see a renewable contract model as being predicated on the idea that people will want out; I see a renewable contract model as being predicated on people wanting to stay in, and wanting to honor that.
9264 - The benefit is that you don't have to go through the pain of divorce. It's all pre-planned and settled in advance. Then if everything is going well and you want to continue, renew the contract for another 5 or 10 years.
4231- not a bad idea, there will be no divorce, and you have time to reassess if you still love her/ him and still want to continue the relationship.. at least you got your contract renewed because you love her/him.
5959 - I like the idea. Sometimes things change. Plus, it makes you always think about being good to your partner on the chance he/she will say, "That's enough!" and have an easy way out!
2870 - Absolutely not!!! A marriage isn't a only while I feel like it thing. Don't marry someone if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with them!!! This is another way our society is changing and destroying the definition of marriage. I'm not saying I don't agree with divorce Because there are sometimes when divorce is healthier than staying married. But I think a contract would be more likely to end a marriage than not.
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